I think part of that "under flock" thing comes down to the problem with LJ/DW culture and Public Discourse.

I want to have more of the conversations with other people with disabilities online that I usually have when offline, but a conversation that's started in my journal is considered "public", so I need to consider whether or not I actually want to have a conversation about disability that any one, disabled or not, can see and thus make assumptions about.

Sometimes I just do not want our in-group discussions about disability to be fodder for people without disabilities to use in arguments. And yet, since every discussion on line is "Disability 101", we'd have to have them in locked communities or on message boards that somehow vouched for others.

I've noticed that people of color also talk about this - wanting to have discussions about issues between people of color that aren't for the prying eyes of white people. I know there are some forums where they do that, but I'm not sure how they vouch for people, or if they take it on faith.